Introducing...Cher Lapid

...the real personality of Cher Lapid aka 2FB, also known as Cherissa Lapid, Cherissa Celeste Lapid, Cher Vallecer.

Months turned into years and we continued this dance.  Tata spent countless weekends with BD and 2FB, they even attended her Middle School graduation in 2012 and they met my daughter's friends.  Everything continued to be fine...until that one day in October of 2013.

Quick background: I happen to be close with some of BD's siblings despite the fact that we didn't end up together, I maintained communication with them because of my daughter.  I figured if I couldn't have a direct communication path with BD, I could at least supplement that by maintaining my friendship with his family members who I could count on whenever Tata was in their care.  Please note that this friendship evolved years before 2FB was in the picture.

So back to that fateful day before the 2013 Halloween, I was chatting on Facebook messenger with BD's half brother - P - located in the Philippines.  Now before this day, P and I had never chatted in real-time, we were friends on Facebook, we would like each other's posts, and occasionally messaged each other about his niece.  However, before I moved to the US, P, A (BD's sister) and I used to hang out, we all have that common love for Philippine malls hahaha.

Anyway, P asked me a question if there was anything wrong with my daughter's relationship with 2FB.  I said none and that 2FB clearly loved his niece.  P said he thought so too, as evidenced by 2FB 's countless loving posts on social media of how she adored my daughter...until he talked to her on Facebook messenger wherein 2FB disclosed that not only does she hate me, she loathes my daughter to no end as well.  This concerned P, as my daughter's uncle and blood relative, he felt that he needed protect his niece from his half-brother's deceitful wife.

P then shared with me the screen capture of his conversations with 2FB:

Translation:  Did you know that here in the US, S (me) acts like she is the richest and smartest ape in the whole world?  And Tata (Agatha), who is such a fake, does not have an ounce of concern for my son.  She only pretends that she loves my son when Rean (her husband and Tata's dad) is around.  Tata is such a fake, all she does is flirt with guys who I cannot even count on my fingers, there's so many of them, omg!

Translation:  Pictures can say a thousand words but they can also cheat the hell out of the beholder (I guess at this point, 2FB was referring to her  happy photos with my daughter where she declares that she loves and adores Tata, but she just admitted that all these photos that she posts were just her being fake happy and fake loving) Sad to say, Tata does not care about my son that's why I never like it when she comes here, all she does is lay on the sofa to text and watch TV, she doesn't even help me around the house.  Boys, boys, boys, that's all there is in her brain and her big boobs.

 

Translation:  Ah she (my daughter) has never visited here if Rean is not here.  If her dad is stepping out,  I make sure that witch (again, my daughter) goes with him.  You know P, I feel bad that we cannot help with dad (2FB's father-in-law and BD's and P's dad) because our money is just enough for our family's daily expenses.  As you know, I don't have a job right now.  I am so sorry and I am hoping for the best.  Why is dad in home care?  Why can't he just stay at home and just pay a visiting nurse to look after him?

 

Translation:  Really P,  I promised myself that I will just focus on my child.  It has been a struggle here in the US, we are not as well-off as my sisters-in-law, but the three of us are happy (referring to her, BD and their son)  I just ignore Tata when she comes here, I act like a robot who stares into space so Tata will get bored and will want to go back to her home immediately.

If these series of messages were solely about me, 2FB could have gotten away with it.  I would have let it slide, because I couldn't care less about her opinion of me.  Constantly spewing derogatory remarks about me will not make her any prettier, richer, smarter or happier.  What she had accomplished by being vocal about her hate towards me is show people - who would listen to her - how truly lacking her character is.  She is shallow and a whole lot of empty.

However, it was clear that 2FB has now maligned my daughter.  The very same person she described as the "sunshine of her life" on one of their many Facebook photos together.  Wow 2FB, you have such a fake and ugly personality.  How can you lie to someone's face by professing to them that you love them, yet secretly loathe them?  Do you even know what LOVE means?

Like I said, you can disparage me all you want, criticize my every movement, laugh at how I look, how I talk, etc.   You can post copious innuendos about me on all your social media accounts and talk bad about me all day to anyone who will listen.  I. WILL. NOT. CARE.  But if you nick my child, who had done nothing wrong but exist, you will see just how much I care!!!

2FB, how did you know that Tata doesn't love your son?  Has she openly declared that?  Did she mistreat your son in any way?  How did you know she was only pretending when she showed affection to her half-brother?  If you sensed that Tata was hesitant with your son, could it be that you're so overprotective of him and overly critical of those who cannot provide the same care and attention that you give him?

Unlike you 2FB, my daughter is not capable of fake loving/liking someone.  She doesn't have cruel intentions and she is incapable of engaging in a relationship devoid of authenticity.  Do you know what this means?  Every thing that you thought about her, which you openly shared with anyone who would listen to you, are just all in your head.  You are projecting your own character on my daughter - because you can fake love/like someone, you automatically think others can too.

Do you know what's true?  That even after finding out about what you really thought of her, how you really despise her, my daughter's first concern was her half-brother (your son!)  Tata feared that she would never have a close relationship with your son because you never liked having her around (which I think is your actual intention anyway.)  It's sad how your son will grow up not knowing what it feels like to have a close relationship with his big sister, but this is what you want, so why be sad about it, right?

Let me tell you about my son, yes, Tata's other half-brother.  Him and his big sister fight like cats and dogs, they are 12 years apart but that age gap didn't stop them from bickering like any other siblings.  They fight about who gets to sit on the couch, even though we have more than one that they can sit on.  They fight over who gets to have the remote control, even though we have another TV in the house.  They fight over every little thing and they scream at each other until one of them cries in defeat.  But do I doubt Tata's love for him?  Not for a single second, not at all.

...and when they think no one is watching (and sometimes even when), they are the most loving siblings to each other.  These two lovely human beings are the reason why I exist, they are my heart and my life.

For reference, in 2013 when we found out 2FB's despicable character, my daughter was 15 years old and 2FB was 35!  Thirty-freaking-five and still no emotional intelligence!  At this point, I actually felt bad for BD.  It's such a pity that he is married to an immature, awful person.

I have to stop here for a second.  A mother can only take so much.