Trying To Move Forward...

Some days I wished that this was all a nightmare and I would wake up any second and everything will be back to normal.  A very small part of me wished I never found out, but there's a reason why I had to discover who the real Cher Lapid is.  I'd like to think we're being protected from people like her.  The only thing I would change is that I wished we had known sooner.  From what I found out, this had been going on for years (yes years!) and that Cher would tell anyone (except us obviously) how much she despises us.

My friend M's text message to me that I have saved since.  
When you cannot think of a reason why someone loathes you, then that than can only mean that someone is simply just a hater.  Be thankful when people like that in your life are exposed, you have to know who they are so you can protect yourself and those close to you.

After letting Cher's husband know the horrible truth about her, I took the first step to try and move on.  I did not want to dwell on negative emotions and I knew that I also needed to find an effective way to stop myself from stooping down to her level.

In January 2014, I went back to school to get my MBA.   Furthering my education was a great way to turn something negative into something positive.  In March 2014, I got promoted and the new job kept me busy during the day and school occupied my nights.  In 2015, my then active duty husband moved to San Antonio, TX for his new assignment.  The family remained in California because Tata was in her junior year in HS and we didn't want to move her close to finishing HS.  2015 quickly became a very busy year for me.  I was halfway done with the MBA program, had a full-time job while managing a household without my husband.  I graduated with a MBA degree in December 2015 and the husband had moved back to California while separating from the Military.

In June 2016, Tata graduated from HS.  She invited BD and her half-brother T, but not Cher.  I hosted a happy hour type of gathering at our house before the graduation ceremony, serving drinks and appetizers before heading out to the venue.  Tata's aunt M (BD's elder sister) and her family came, while BD said he wasn't comfortable with it, so he would just head straight to the venue with T.

I am not unreasonable.  Even if I hated Cher to the core,  it didn't mean that I harbor the same animosity towards BD and their son.  They did not do anything, so I was more than willing to welcome them at my house.  However, BD found it awkward.  For one day he cannot set aside his feelings to make his daughter happy, that day should be all about our daughter, not him.

As we headed out to the venue, Tata got a call from BD stating that they were in line to get in and that T was getting hungry.  I packed a sandwich, a drink and some churros for the little boy and we met them at the graduation site.  Everything went smoothly and off we went our separate ways after the event was done.

The following day, my daughter received an Instagram request from Cher (she formerly unfollowed and blocked Tata after that revelation almost 3 years ago at this point) of course, the daughter did not grant Cher's request.  What the heck was she thinking?  Just because we were nice to your husband and son, didn't mean that we forgot about what you did!

What you did Cher cannot be swept under the rug.  It cannot be forgotten.  It was inexcusable and downright evil.  Our lives have no place for phony characters like you, so why even try to make nice?  We can see through you, we know that you are innately vicious.  I suggest you move along and find some weak minds who will fall for your act.